This past weekend my Dad came to town to visit LC and, at one point, he gave DW and I a few hours "off" to go have a coffee date. DW suggested, since the weather was cool, we should get our drinks to go and go hang out at the park near our house. It was a sweet time together although admittedly weird without our tiny little sidekick.
While romance has its place, some of the most blessed moments in this life with DW are when we just have some face to face time together...time to ask each other those tough questions that get lost sometimes in the craziness and go-go-go of life. Are you happy right now? is a necessary but hard question to ask in marriage, however, I would submit somehow its easier to accept over a hot drink while holding hands. ;-)
Being realistic, there is always work to be done but I love when we are tenderly yet wide open honest with one another. Last night we were able to enter our "safe zone" - that place where we choose to suspend our individual rights (you know, the right to get our feelings hurt or argue for ourselves or defend). We choose to see the world through our spouses eyes...and how strange and wonderful and painful it is.
We aren't some couple passively hoping our marriage goes the distance on a wing and a prayer...we're working at it. We fail each other, we surpass each other's expectations, we tick each other off, we know our lives are better because the other is in it...and, even after all this time, we're still learning one another.
This is my favorite journey...